I remember one time when Julian, my oldest son, was sixteen. He sang in a good choir in his high school years. This program featured a very ambitious selection of time-honored works and new music. I know I must shut down my musical snobbery and listen to the excellent students who are excited about their own music-making. I just thought to myself, “Thank God this is good literature and I wasn’t trapped listening to a concert of music from the 50s.” This moment reminded me that finding joy in our children’s passions reflects the love and hope we celebrate as we lead up to Christmas.

What moved me so much was the joy I saw in my son’s eyes as he had a place on the stage. Seeing him smile and laugh with friends reminded me how small moments of happiness can fill our hearts with gratitude. I watched him at the end of a number, and he turned to a few other boys in the choir, and they just looked at one another and laughed. My son could not have been in a more perfect moment for him than that. I was thrilled for my “big ole stinky boy.”

I realize that, as a pastor, father, husband, etc., I can get so caught up in the business of the season that I forget to see the small expressions of joy around me. I could miss my youngest son, sitting next to me, rocking out to his favorite music. I could have missed my oldest son expressing his passion for being a part of a wonderful young group of musicians. Recognizing these moments encourages me to intentionally pause and appreciate the love and joy present in everyday life.

I hope I never become so busy that I overlook the love that surrounds me as a pastor, husband, father, and friend. I want to cherish the joy that the church community shares as we prepare for the coming of Jesus. When I open a Christmas card and see the love expressed, I feel connected to something much bigger than myself. Let us always find love and gratitude in these moments.

Let us keep the joy of the season by finding love in everything we do. Recognizing these small acts helps us see our hope and dependence on God. May we express hope and gratitude during this Advent season, knowing we are part of something greater than ourselves. 

And as for that dad whose heart leapt for delight. There is no Christmas present greater than seeing your family happy. No store can purchase it. No place can manufacture it. I am fortunate to have caught a glimpse of it. May my son have many more experiences that make him draw back and laugh with joy.